Yaum as-Sabt 27th Dhu al-Hijjah 1428
Bismillah ar Rahmaan ar Raheem,
As salaam alaikum wa rahmaatuulahhi wa baraakaatuu,
Brother Tariq Nelson and Umar Lee have posts on the brother that may have murdered his daughters rather then letting them be “hoe like”. First I will start by saying that when you live in the United States, or anywhere else since the American culture is the prevalent culture in the world today, and you don’t instill in your kids Islamic manners they are going to be more like Aisha Tyler then Ayesha bint Abu Bakr. Also if parents front and tell their daughters to get niqaabed up(niqaab is the face veil) while their fathers are wearing tight pants, and business suits, and dress shirts tucked into khakis, or even polos and jeans (that is what I wear) don’t you think that they will feel that you are not being fair and that there is a double standard. If they see their mother dressing like Hillary, don’t you think they will want to be like Hanna Montana. Before we even start talking about sisters not wearing proper Jelbab (the loose outer garment that leaves only the face and hands uncovered) we should talk about the double standards among brothers, especially those coming to the Masjid looking like Ricky Martin (with extra tight pants).
On to our murdered sisters, may Allah forgive them for their sins… Ameen. Allah’tala gave us a free will. Allah didn’t make us do anything. Why do we as parents think we can make our kids do anything. You can instruct and educate. You can voice your displeasure, but once they hit 9 years, you can only make them do things in your presence. And if their hearts are not doing the action to please Allah’tala, then why even do it. Are they only doing the actions to get their parents off their backs, because, I don’t think that any youth forced to do anything is doing it to make their parents happy. A bigger question is are the parents only asking their kids to do something “Islamic” to make them look good, and to feed their ego and feed their pride?
Prophet Muhmammed instructed us to make our kids pray at 7 and to beat them for missing Salaah(the Islamic ritual! prayer) at 10. Now, how did Prophet Muhmammed beat kids.. huh? I know he didn’t jump on them, hit them upside their head or with a closed fist. In order to implement this Hadeeth (saying of the prophet) we have to make Salaah. If we are not making Salaah that makes diagnosing the problem real easy, doesn’t it.
I almost know for sure that these sisters were not making Salaah, cause how you gonna make Salaah in tight jeans and a halter top. To be honest I really don’t know how these sister dressed. So they may have dressed like a Madonna of today or they could have been dressed like a Madonna of the 80’s, I don’t know, but the point I am trying to make is that the clothes you wear represent who you are on the inside. It is obvious if they dressed inappropriately it was due to a lack of Taqwa (being conscious of what pleases Allah), and a lack of understanding of their religion.
Their lack of understanding came from their parents, and they reflected their parent’s understanding of Islam. If their father did indeed kill them in a “honor” killing, it was for his honor, and we shouldn’t get his honor mixed up with Islam. If he did kill them he will have to answer to Allah’tala for his actions, and his actions according to Islam were way worse then they way his daughters dressed.
Allah’tala instructs us in the Quran not to kill our children, and he has told us numerous times that he is the final judge.
Their is another issue here that is seldom addressed. That is the issue of the actions of the society vs. the actions of an individual. The society acts through a government. Since Islam is a complete system, way of life, we have Islamic laws that are supposed to be implemented through an Islamic government. These are the laws that have caused problems because today individuals try to enforce them.
The issue of women wearing proper Jelbab outside of the house is something that is enforced by the society through it’s government. It is also enforced through the morals of the society.! An exam ple of this that we can relate to is you can’t walk around in pubic naked. The ban on nudity is enforced not only by the law but also by the people in their lives. This is demonstrated by the fact that people will make you feel bad, shun you, and scold you if you decided to take a stroll in the nude in a public place.
The other factor that enforces a law in an Islamic society is the individual’s Taqwa that will compel them to abide by Islam rule.
Unfortunately, this brother may have not understood the boundaries of the society and the individual, as most Muslims don’t. Now the enemies of Allah will try to make these sad murders look like something Islam teaches, when in fact there is no law in Islam that says that you kill someone for how they dress.
I will take it a step further, and when I say this, I would like to make it clear that I am not referring to this incident. Even if my daughter went and had an affair with an non-Muslim man then it is up to the government to punish her and not me. In order for the government to punish her they need to have met a burden of proof. It is widely known that the punishment in Islam for fornication is being lashed a number of times, and for adultery it is being stoned to death. What is hardly every discussed is that four witnesses are needed to enforce either law. The four witnesses have to see the actual act and I will leave it at that. Most of the time the individual who committed the act testifies against their self. The motive for someone turning themselves in is this is the only sure way to cleanse their self of the sin, otherwise they will just have to ask for forgiveness, and Allah’tala is the most forgiving.
Another unfortunate thing is that these tragedies will continue until we (Muslims) turn back to Islam, implement Islam into our life, treat each other with kindness and make a sincere dua(prayer or wish) to Allah that he guides us to the straight path.
Oh Rabb (lord of the universe), guide us, increase our unde! rstandin g, guide and protect our children, save us from the Hell Fire, make it easy for us to please you, keep us distant from the Shayton (devils).. Ameen
